Chapter one My name is Affan. I am a decent and hardworking man. I didn’t go to school much, and I don’t have a degree, but I believe in honesty, effort, and prayers. From a young age, I learned that life doesn’t always go the way you want, so you must fight for what you…
Anonymous #4
I understand why this situation touched you emotionally because from a woman’s perspective it can feel very confusing and even painful. You have been in a relationship with this man for two years, listening to promises about marriage and hearing him repeatedly say that he wants to wait until he is financially ready. Then suddenly…
Anonymous #3
What you are feeling is painful especially because you are still newly married. During the first months of marriage, most women expect closeness, attention, late-night conversations, affection, and excitement from their husband. So when a husband keeps staying outside till late at night, it can make a woman start questioning herself and the marriage very…
Anonymous #2
Wallahi what you are feeling is very common especially among many Northern women, but people rarely say it openly. Sometimes the man you truly love is not yet ready for marriage, while the one ready to marry you is not the one your heart wants. That situation can confuse a woman badly because one side…
Anonymous #1
Sometimes people think that because a woman is married to a military officer she should automatically be proud and patient no matter what she is going through, but many women in that kind of marriage suffer quietly. People see the uniform, the discipline, the respect, and the salary, but they do not see the loneliness…
Marriage Diary #9
“He Was Stingy While We Were Dating… I Thought It Was Love” I have been married to this man for one year now. But sometimes, I sit down and ask myself how I got here… and I remember the warning signs I ignored. When we were dating, I noticed something about him. He was stingy….
Love Diary #7
We Met Again at the Airport… and I Understood Everything” Earlier this morning, I was at Mallam Aminu Kano International Airport. Just a normal day. Nothing special. Or at least… that’s what I thought. I had arrived early, as usual. I don’t like rushing. I checked in, found a quiet place, and sat down scrolling…
Cheating Diary #3
I Wanted a Simple Wife… I Didn’t Know What I Was Inviting” I am a civil servant. My life has always been simple. Wake up, go to work, come back home, rest. Repeat. I’m not a flashy man, but Alhamdulillah, I can provide. I don’t owe anyone. I live within my means. When I decided…
Cheating Diary #2
I Married an Older Woman… This Is What It Taught Me” I used to believe in love. Not just love… But the kind of love that ignores what people say. The kind that proves society wrong. Especially in our Hausa society, people talk a lot about age in marriage. You’ll hear things like, “Don’t marry…
Cheating Diary #1
It Started with Food… Then It Became Something Else” I am a married man. My wife and children live in Kebbi State, while I work in Abuja. Because of my job, I stay alone in a rented apartment inside an estate. It’s not easy living like that. Being away from your family… eating alone… coming…